Is it “selfish” to not have kids?
No, of course not.
You only get one life, and you have the right to enjoy it.
The accusation of selfishness implies that it sucks to have kids, and not having kids is better, and therefore "selfish."
Because people without kids enjoy their lives more.
My ex-husband and I decided early on that we did not want to have children. I certainly wasn’t mature enough and having grown up in a family situation where my father was definitely King of the castle, I decided that I didn’t want any part of it. And I didn’t want to pass on those genes. We were called selfish, immature, kids would help our marriage stay together, and all other kinds of BS. Even when we were going through counseling before our divorce, my ex’s friends were saying well if you had a kid it would be better. No it would not have been better. I grew up in a dysfunctional household my parents spot like cats and dogs, but they held together because they were children of the depression era. I did not want to live like that. So today in this time, and what is happening, I am grateful that I don’t have children or grandchildren. I hate the thought of what’s being left to them. Thanks to this assine regime!
I was married for 48 years, we did not want, never had children. We had an awesome full life together